Breath, sound, movement

These three elements are key in connecting to our body and our pleasure. And yet, so many of us, we learned to hold them in.

We hold our breath.

We stay silent.

We keep our bodies still.

This is especially true when we self-pleasure. It becomes something quick, hidden, private—done in silence, with shallow breath and a still body. Something to get over with, rather than something to explore and enjoy.

But here’s the truth: your body craves expression. And when you allow breath, sound, and movement to flow freely, something beautiful happens—you reconnect to your body in a deeper, more intimate way. You create space for more sensation and more aliveness.

For most of us, our early experiences of pleasure were shaped in secrecy or silence. Maybe we learned to keep it hidden. To stay quiet. To move as little as possible and to contract.  And often, this pattern follows us into adulthood—into our s*ex lives and yes, even into the experience of receiving a tantric massage.

As a practitioner, I notice it often. People come in and their bodies are still. Their breath is shallow, their jaw tight, their hips tense. It’s as if the body is waiting for permission—to soften, to let go, to move and feel free in their bodies.

So here’s your invitation.

Whether you’re exploring pleasure on your own or receiving a massage, I gently encourage you to come back to your breath, your sound, and your movement. Give yourself permission :)

Start with your breath.

Let it deepen. Let it move through your body like a wave.

Breathe in through your nose, and let your exhale fall open through your mouth. Let it be soft, full, nourishing. Or whatever feels natural for you, just breath deeper.

Then, open your mouth. Allow a gentle sound to escape. A sigh. A hum. A soft moan. This isn’t about being performative—it’s about release. Sound helps your body relax and your nervous system unwind.

Finally, let yourself move.

Undulate, move your hips. Arch your back. Sway gently. Even the smallest movements awaken sensation. Your body knows how to move when it feels safe—let it guide you.

As you begin to experiment with breathing deeper, sounding louder, and moving more freely, keep an attitude of gentle curiosity. You’re essentially rewriting old patterns and teaching your body that it’s safe now to express. There is no rush and no expectation – this is not about “performing” pleasure or doing all three things perfectly. Some moments you might focus mostly on breath, other times sound or movement will naturally take the lead. Let it unfold in whatever way feels right for you.

If you find yourself giggling or feeling shy when you suddenly hear your own voice or notice your body moving in a new way, that’s okay – even welcome. There is truly no “right” way to breathe, sound, or move. Whatever authentic expression comes is right for you.

Be patient with yourself. Years of holding back won’t unwind in one day. You might occasionally slip into old habits of silence or tension; when you notice that, simply acknowledge it and then gently invite your breath or voice back. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a lover who is learning to open up.

By opening these channels, you might release a sigh that turns into a sob, or a hip movement that unlocks an unexpected emotion. Embrace whatever comes with love and patience. Curiosity means you stay open to the experience without fixed expectations, and awareness means you stay present with whatever arises, moment by moment.

These are simple things. But they elevate your experience

They help to feel more pleasure, and reconnect to the wisdom that lives in your body.

So next time you self-pleasure, or come for a tantric massage, try this:

Breathe deeply.

Let sound come.

Move freely.

You might be surprised by how much more your body is capable of feeling—when you give it the space to truly express.

Love,

Rosie x