Semen retention experience

Semen retention can be a powerful practice for men to explore. It is an opportunity to notice how energy moves in the body, how it feels to stay present with arousal without releasing, and how this may affect the mind, emotions, and sense of connection.

I am not a man, and I can’t tell how this feels from the inside. I am learning about it from teachers and from men who have chosen to walk this path. One of my dear guests kindly offered to share a few words about his own experience with semen retention, and how this practice has changed the way he relates to his body, his s*exuality, and himself.

Before I share his words, I want to mention something important.

A tantric massage is a space to let go of all that pressure, to rest, to feel, to receive, and to allow the body to respond naturally. Every experience is different, and each is welcome.

If semen retention is something you would like to practice during our session, please mention it when we chat before the massage.

For those who wish to explore this topic further, there are a few blogs I wrote in July that dive deeper into the practice and its benefits.

Below are my guest’s reflections, shared with his permission:

''I recently started a journey of semen retention. I’m not entirely sure why. I think it is a way of taking back control of my masculinity and my sexuality. For me, ejaculation (release) had become habitual, it had become my routine.

It has been a challenge, and I have faltered on more than one occasion. But each time I falter I know more than ever that this is a path I want to walk. What my retention practice has awakened is a deep feeling of masculinity. I have come to refer to this feeling as “pure masculine energy”. It is hard to describe. It is not sexual, it is not aggressive, but it is strong and it is primal. It makes me feel I can tackle anything in life. Sexual frustration has subsided as well. Now that I have made the decision to retain my semen, I no longer feel the need to chase those things that might lead to a release.

I have found testicular massage to be particularly helpful in maintaining my semen retention practice. So often, those moments where I felt the need for a release I now realise I was really searching for a connection with myself. Testicular massage has filled that space that used to be occupied by the search for release. I still get the opportunity to honour myself and feel a connection, but I retain my strength and my masculinity and my power. In fact, the connection I feel with myself is even stronger.

During a recent massage with Rosie I discussed my wish to maintain my semen retention practice. We agreed that testicular massage would take the place of lingam massage. This profoundly changed my experience of the massage.

The experience was so freeing. It wasn’t until this moment that I realised I had always previously put a little pressure on myself to “perform”. There was always a fear, albeit small, that I would not become aroused, and that I would not be able to ejaculate. It was not a big fear, and it hadn’t spoiled previous massages. However, once that need to ejaculate was removed I felt so free. This time there was no fear, no worry. I could completely open myself to receive Rosie’s touch. The testicular massage felt loving and nourishing.

I am aware of the Tantric concept of moving sexual energy up from the root chakra to higher chakras but I had never really understood what it meant. With testicular massage I feel I can move that energy to my heart and I am left with a feeling of lightness and a feeling of being free. Previously I would have always felt that an erotic encounter with a woman that did not result in a release would have left me feeling frustrated. However, quite the opposite was true. I left with a profound feeling of peace and tranquility. The energy that was in my root, was now in my heart, and brought me great strength.''

Love,

Rosie x