The Five S3xual Blueprints

I came across the concept of the erotic blueprints by watching a documentary hosted by Gwyneth Paltrow called 'S3x, Love & goop' on Netflix.

'S3x, Love & goop' presents couples of different ages and sexualities navigating their s3xual challenges and discoveries, relationship dynamics and more. We know that s3xual wants and needs are different in most relationships—one partner might need the perfect moment to get in the mood, while the other could be ready after a short sensual warmup—which can cause some misalignment.

This is where Jaiva, a somatic sexologist, came up with the concept of the five s3xual blueprints (the 5 love languages in the bedroom).

An erotic blueprint is described as "a map of arousal that reveals your specific erotic language of orgasmic delight," according to Jaiya's website.

Types of Erotic Blueprints

There are five different types of erotic blueprints and you can take a test to figure out which type you are here https://missjaiya.com/.

Energetic

The energetic type loves "anticipation, space, tease" and playing on the "touching but not touching" concept, Jaiya explains.

"They like the energy. And some of them really get into the spiritual aspect of sexuality. Yes, s3x and spirit can go together, and so there's this sense of I'm reaching or attaining enlightenment through my sexual energy," the sexologist said.

Sensual

Aroused by sensations: touch, sound, taste, smell- they bring beauty, comfort and whole-body sensuality to a sexual encounter. A Sensual Type needs to be relaxed to open to sexual connection and turn-on. If you need to create the right environment to be turned on and get excited when the right lighting, music and smells are present, this might your blueprint. A sensual tantric massage is a turn on for this blueprint.

S3xual

The s3xual type "loves nudity" as well as penetration and frequent intercourse. Aroused by the simple act of intercourse and by body parts, s3x is fun and they use it in order to relax. Those with this s3xual style are ready to go whenever there’s time or a willing partner. However, they can get stuck in a limited view of s3xuality and can be goal-oriented.

Kinky

Kinky types are turned on by everything that may be considered "taboo," such as floggers, ropes and uniforms. They sometimes can have some shame about their taboo desires and, if they don’t have a supportive partner who listens to their needs, they can suppress their type and become distant or develop self-esteem issues.

Shapeshifter

Aroused by all of the above. They are very creative and need a partner who is also equally adventurous. Sometimes they shift to be what others want them to be instead of owning their own s3xuality, needs and desires and sometimes they can feel they are too much. Shapeshifter types often have to take time to reconnect to themselves so they can be more authentic and express their s3xual preferences.

Knowing what to explore or how to explore our pleasure can feel confusing and even overwhelming, but when you learn what your needs, wants and desires are through your Erotic Blueprint, you can accept who you are and open a whole new world of pleasure possibilities. 

Whether you are single or in a relationship, start by exploring your own blueprint through self pleasure. Jaiya says that “solo s3x can be one of the best ways to learn your own body, without pressure, and build your understanding of what turns you on.” Once you do this, you can feel more empowered to ask for what you want, expand your pleasure vocabulary, and increase your erotic intelligence when you’re with a partner.

If you'd like to learn more about the five s3xual blueprints, this is a lovely podcast:

SEX EXPERT: #1 Way To Build Desire, Attraction & ORGASM Everytime | Jaiya

Love,

Rosie x